Birthdays have never been so depressing!

When I was a kid I longed for this day year after year.Looked forward to it teh moment the celebrations got over. Not anymore,
Wish I could do that now.!!!
Waah!!!! I turned a year older today.
Tried nice Chinese restaurant today with Mallu. Fried rice with some exotic sounding Chinese Dish, yummy but had to rush cause I had to report to work.
Yes I WORKED ON MY BIRTHDAY!!!
CAll me hopeless now!
and isnt it sad when people who matter to you forget.
All the people in the world but those who mattered called me today!



Ps I share my birhtday with Goldie Hawn as well as Voltaire.

The Mess of Love

We've made a great mess of love
Since we made an ideal of it.
The moment I swear to love a woman, a certain woman, all my life
That moment I begin to hate her.

The moment I even say to a woman: I love you! ---
My love dies down considerably.

The moment love is an understood thing between us, we are sure of it,
It's a cold egg, it isn't love any more.

Love is like a flower, it must flower and fade;
If it doesn't fade, it is not a flower,
It's either an artificial rag blossom, or an immortelle, for the cemetery.

The moment the mind interferes with love, or the will fixes on it,
Or the personality assumes it as an attribute, or the ego takes possession of it,
It is not love any more, it's just a mess.
And we've made a great mess of love, mind-perverted, will-perverted, ego-perverted love.

--- © 1929 D. H. Lawrence

Shemin put this up on the mail:- time for thought?

I was reading something about suicide bombers, and I thought i will share some of the quotes in some of the articles i read...

shemin

Edwin Shneidman, a clinical psychologist who is a leading authority on suicide, and who is sometimes called the Father of modern Suicidology, has described the ten characteristics of suicide in his book "Definition of Suicide" (1985).

1. The common stimulus in suicide is "unendurable psychological pain".

2. The common stress in suicide is "frustrated psychological needs".

3. The common purpose of suicide is "to seek a solution".

4. The common goal of suicide is "cessation of consciousness".

5. The common emotion in suicide is "hopelessness- helplessness".

6. The common internal attitude toward suicide is "ambivalence".

7. The common cognitive state in suicide is "constriction".

8. The common interpersonal act in suicide is "communication of intention".

9. The common action in suicide is "egression" (a way out).

10. The common consistency in suicide is with "life-long coping patterns".

"Suicide, I have learned is not a bizarre and incomprehensible act of self destruction. Rather, suicidal people use a particular logic, style of thinking that brings them to the conclusion that death is the only solution to their problems. This style can be readily seen, and there are steps we can take to stop suicide, if we know where to look" -- Dr. Shneidman states in his article "At The Point Of No Return" in Psychology Today (1987, p.56)

"There are many pointless deaths but never a needless suicide" -- Shneidman (1985)